“Yes, my Privacy settings mean a lot to me!”

So yes, I am a private person, and I don’t like sharing a whole lot with the entire world! I have few friends in real life with whom I prefer to share a lot! And then there only one or two with whom I share everything!

And I think that holds true for most of us!

The same attitude is a practice of mine on FB as well! And therefore it is very difficult for me to explain to people when they come up to me and say, “Dude we can’t see that(insert whatever you like here) on your (FB) profile”!

Even my mother has complained to me about this.

But the fact of the matter remains, that I am a very private person, and I guard my privacy above everything else!

I have almost my entire family on FB, and then I have some of my most closest friends on it as well. And you can’t always expect your friends to say the most audience-appropriate thing, so yes a lot of things have to get censored!  Continue reading

A modern day love story!

Did anyone see that movie Love ajj kal? Well consider this post a sequel to that movie. This is not my story, but was shared with my

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by a friend, and happens to be the love story of his brother.. well a pretty unsuccessful love story!

And this is how it goes….

They met online, and talks between them come closer and closer, until love had taken over both of them. The distance melted away, and they started to make their visits frequent….He lived in Karachi, She was in Islamabad!

The love affair lasted for around 8 years. I am not too big on the details.. but I guess that like every relationship, they must have had their ups and down!

But alas! This was not to be! The girl was diagnosed with cancer! And is now counting her final days! The guy at this point decided that he wanted to marry her!

But the girl refused! Probably not wanting to tie the guy down!

Now till this point the story is great!

Here is the modern, insensitive twist!

The guy is getting married in this September to some other girl! He has not met her, but was chosen for him by his family! Continue reading

“Is life really that complicated as we make it out to be?”

“Is life really that complicated as we make it out to be?”

That was the question asked to me by a friend of mine. I really didn’t have an answer to this question, although it did make me remeber something a school friend of mine once remarked.

She said, “I feel like nowadays me get ourselves bothered with far too many things.. relationships, boyfriends ( you people remember high school), while I look at these other girl (the nerds) and I really feel that the options that they have chosen for themselves tends to leave them more at peace.”

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But you see, I believe that the modern world has got complicated.In the modern world, you are required to think on your toes, come up with solutions right there and then!

Things are far too complicated everything is multi-layered, and then you are always connected, meaning that you never have space or even a minute to yourself, to just think or run away. You are expected to be connected all the time!

I remember once how a teacher of mine had commented when we told him that a particular student couldn’t be reached in the short time about the extra class, since she wasn’t a regular email checker or had a phone. Continue reading

What to do when a friend gets a GF?

People, I have had a pretty simple rule for most of my life.. and now let me take this opportunity today to share it with you. The rule for always has been

“WHEN A FRIEND MALE FRIEND OF YOURS GETS A GIRL FRIEND….. RUN!

Yes, I realize that there would be many of you out there ready to come to put your case against this statement of mine… I mean you and this certain friend of yours have been such good friends despite you/her having so many relationships..blah,blah,blah…. but well I really don’t care for your opposition.

My experiences have told me from time and time again that it is the worst.. no correct that… THE MOST WORST IDEA .. that you would ever get in your life.

And the two times that I decided to throw this rule of mine out of the window and continue being normal.. and avoiding caution.. with my friends who have recently gotten “their own life” has serious been a disaster.

Take the events of today shall we? I ran into this great friend of mine.. I mean i hadn’t seen him for two weeks because he is now working and the last two Saturdays because of unavoidable circumstances we were just not able to meet each other. but today apparently he gets off of work early.. and if I was smart enough I would have taken the fact that his girl.. who also works.. is also hanging out around the university as any hint, I might have avoided a confrontation.. but alas.. I m not that smart. and  I didn’t get the hint.

but lets back up a little and let me tell you the whole story in its most minimal version ..  Continue reading

Maid and Us – an evolving relationship!

Never before did i think that it is possible to have a maid as a status symbol! But apparently it is!

We have never been the family that stresses too much about the maid and keep looking and following it stressing till the last spot of dust has been removed; we have never been the family that keeps firing one maid after the other until they find the one that fulfills treats their own house like their first born!

This is how it has worked for us. The maid comes in on the first day; she is taken through the duties that she is suppose to do! Her time is usually fixed according to our whims, which is usually at 9, when we are all fast asleep and she does her work without getting in our faces and leaves… anything that needs to be complained about her lack of care for our house is transmitted to her the next morning!

We had the same maid for over 10 years and when she left, it was like we had been completely abandoned… we were lost for so long, we didn’t trust anyone else to take care of our house for a  long time, there were a few rebounds but they just didn’t work! Continue reading

The ending of yet another year!

The year is almost over! It’s done with.. and as a human this is as true a confession can get about how I have spent this year!

As a mere human, I have spent this year dwelling in whats to come, and whats been left behind forever and ever to which there is no turning back.

I have made mistakes and failed, I have taken risks and succedded, I have rejoiced in my friends happiness, and have been hurt by what I saw around me.

I have found new friendships, while found an even greater support system within the old friendships that I have carried on with me for years.

I found that the perspectives that I have had about people are not always true and every now and then they require to be revisited, evaluated, and changed for the better or for the worst.

I have broken promises and gotten mad at other for breaking theirs! Continue reading

Of being Gay (In the most sexual manner)

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Flags at a Gay, Lesbian and bisexual Parade. Image via Wikipedia

A friend of mine recently commented to me

“How do you expect to find a straight man when you are so friendly with gay people?”

Now I would not have been surprised if she had said:

“How do  you expect to find a man for yourself when you are always hanging out with guys whom you call your friend, since any other guy would assume the obvious since they are that stupid and idiot?”

What is it with people and this huge deal over being gay? Especially straight men! As soon as you mention a story about a friend, they would actually start making faces, or come up with the most weirdest taunts about them.

It is like this great big phobia that straight men seem to be having! I mean just because they are gay doesn’t mean they want to do it with every guy!

But to be honest it is nice to know that men can feel the same kind of insecurities that girls face in most parts of the world.

But this phobia is real , and I have seen it in many of my straight friends, and I think it is downright offensive they talk about gay men! The recent suicide by a teenager over being gay due to the taunts of his friends and students of the same high school shows the fact that there is a very low acceptance of being gay in almost all parts of the world. Continue reading