Five stages of Grief

” Lexie: Grief may be a thing we all have in common, but it looks different on everyone.

Mark: It isn’t just death we have to grieve. It’s life. It’s loss. It’s change.
Alex: And when we wonder why it has to suck so much sometimes, has to hurt so bad. The thing we gotta try to remember is that it can turn on a dime.
Izzie: That’s how you stay alive. When it hurts so much you can’t breathe, that’s how you survive.
Derek: By remembering that one day, somehow, impossibly, you won’t feel this way. It won’t hurt this much.
Bailey: Grief comes in its own time for everyone, in its own way.
Owen: So the best we can do, the best anyone can do, is try for honesty.
Meredith: The really crappy thing, the very worst part of grief is that you can’t control it.
Arizona: The best we can do is try to let ourselves feel it when it comes.
Callie: And let it go when we can.
Meredith: The very worst part is that the minute you think you’re past it, it starts all over again.
Cristina: And always, every time, it takes your breath away.
Meredith: There are five stages of grief. They look different on all of us, but there are always five.
Alex: Denial.
Derek: Anger.
Bailey: Bargaining.
Lexie: Depression.
Chief: Acceptance.

– Lines from Greys Anatomy


These for me are some of the most beautiful lines ever written! They are honest, relate-able, and is about something that we have all been through. Loss, Grief, Change are all emotions that we feel on a daily basis, and somehow we learn to accept it and move past it to a point where it doesn’t hurt that bad.

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How Sex and the city destroyed my life!

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Now the title may be a slight exaggeration, but still, let me run this theory by you and then you can let me know if I am making sense or not!

This observation was made by a friend of mine, but it has taken me a while to except it. But here are some pointers that I now present to you to point out how “Sex and the City” has ruined my life!

“Come what may, we would always be friends!” Bad Bad Idea! That only happens in the show! Once your girl friends have their men, they would disappear faster than the latest baggy jeans fashion!

As soon as they are married, their priorities change.. don’t get me wrong. It’s not like I don’t understand that your whole life has changed, but to ditch your friends, and all of a sudden being completely unavailable at all, just doesn’t make sense.

I guess that only happens in the drama ha.. where you can take out time for each other every Saturday (or was it sunday) morning for lunch! *SIGH*

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Change is inevitable… But did I have to realize it because of a WEDDING?

It could have been the scene from “My Best Friends Wedding” ..you know the one when Julia Roberts falls off from the bed… but that is how I truly received the news of my best friend – my only girl best friend’s engagement (Thank God for the fact that I was already sitting on the floor) . The state of my mind changed quickly from Puzzlement over her random one liner message (“I am getting engaged ;)”) , to pure shock to joy and amusement and happiness all combined together to complete depression by the night!

Till the pre-depression time, I was only thinking about how much fun a close friend’s wedding can be, the shopping it would involve, about how she had faced all the pressure that surrounds a single girl in her particular community and despite all of that, getting a degree in the field of her choice (Dentistry – but to be honest it is becoming such a drag now.. it is almost impossible for anyone of us to open our mouth without having her find some errors in our dental hygiene), and then finally making it through with the guy that she liked without any drama from her or the guy’s family! I was am truly happy for her!

Come night fall and my brain was screaming to me “OH MY GOD SHE IS GETTING MARRIED”.. it was as if my brain was doing its own version of our channels “Breaking News” telecast. And it was at that point that I realized that nothing would be the same again. Continue reading

The Vicious Circle of Pakistani Intellectuals

Ever been to a meeting of the “So-Called Intellectuals” of Pakistan? NO? Then don’t worry! It’s very simple. Just go to any Cultural/Political/Art Festival or T2F Event, or simply add one of them on Facebook  and you would come across this circle of people .. this circle of people I from now on christen the “Vicious Circle of Intellectuals in Pakistan”

The Intellectuals are at it !

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